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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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At the end of my story, I share some scrawled lyrics in progress. They are brutally honest and very personal. It is because of writing those words that I found the insight I needed for my newest song. Continue reading →

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I AM HUMAN

Posted on July 18, 2015 by Judy

I grew up to become a good girl. It’s hard to maintain that. I’d rather use the phrase of “being human.” That gives me permission to feel upset and to make mistakes. Being human helps me to understand my reactions when I am under tremendous pressure. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 2

Posted on January 10, 2015 by Judy

I’ve been an artist all of my life. And working with music involves much of the same abilities I’ve used as a professional illustrator for the last thirty years. I’m grateful that when I began playing my guitar again after almost thirty years, I could still remember most of the songs I wrote so long ago. Continue reading →

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I’M SOARING FREE

Posted on June 12, 2014 by Judy

My eyes were closed but I grinned and said, “I guess if I enjoy the experience of being touched then I think I’ll need to get massages more often!” Continue reading →

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WITH JOY WHEN I SING

Posted on June 7, 2014 by Judy

For most of my life, I seldom opened up to share my true feelings with anyone. I was too busy raising my children and surviving grief. Continue reading →

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ALL OF MY TEARS GAVE ME COMPASSION

Posted on May 20, 2014 by Judy

Tomorrow is my father's birthday. He died two years ago. Thinking of his absence over the last two years, is a mixed bag. I miss his caring and concern for me, but hated watching him suffer toward the end of his life. Continue reading →

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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 3

Posted on April 24, 2014 by Judy

My song “Laughter & Tears” heals me because it takes me away from analyzing my pain and focusing on the loss. Instead of judging my feelings and looking at mistakes, my lyrics are a way to view my former marriage in a beautiful way – I see it as a collage of memories. Continue reading →