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MY DREAM – PART 2

Posted on August 11, 2014 by Judy

My dream definitely illuminates the darkness in my life. Unfortunately, my eyes have continued to be a curtain for me. I love to dream of when that curtain opens someday. Continue reading →

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ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Posted on March 16, 2014 by Judy

In order to better deal with PSTD, I have begun to acknowledge many things that previously I have shoved back down. Continue reading →

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I’M CRYING WHILE I’M DREAMING

Posted on March 15, 2014 by Judy

In many dreams my mother appeared to me. We were holding hands and laughing, and then suddenly she died. Each time it happened in a different way. Continue reading →

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It was my music and songs that caused my heart to stir again with feeling. And when my parents faded from my life, I did not want to accept numbness anymore. My children did not require, nor benefit from my constant devotion either. It was the discovery of my self-worth that gave me the courage to change my life. Continue reading →

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I KNEW I’D BE OKAY – PART 2

Posted on December 22, 2013 by Judy

I was so relieved that things had improved so much because of my own courage and inclination. It had been such a wondrous day, filled with improvement in so many ways. Perhaps this was the rainbow through my tears after all! Continue reading →

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MEANT TO ME – PART 2

Posted on December 20, 2013 by Judy

Today I signed a final agreement resolving all issues related to my divorce after 31 years of marriage. The divorce will become final after 30-60 days. Continue reading →

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I SEE A RAINBOW THROUGH MY TEARS

Posted on December 10, 2013 by Judy

The rainbow through my tears was something I had seen before. It was important for me to remember that even if I wasn’t seeing it at the moment. Continue reading →

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I LIVED WEARING A BLINDFOLD

Posted on November 19, 2013 by Judy

Living with a blindfold and making no sound allowed me to stay married for 31 years. I was blind to things that upset me and chose to avoid conflict as much as possible. Continue reading →

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THIS FEELS SO WRONG

Posted on September 14, 2013 by Judy

My post title is a line of lyrics from my song “The Unknown.” My song changed the direction of my life because it led me to divorce my husband after 31 years of marriage. Continue reading →

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I’M READY – PART 2

Posted on September 6, 2013 by Judy

When I started my blog, I had no idea where my journey would lead. But there was a moment when everything changed. It began with new song lyrics. My song “The Unknown” was so painful for me that I became physically ill. How was it possible that a song could actually change the direction of my life?
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