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RAINBOW THROUGH MY TEARS-PART 2

Posted on March 27, 2016 by Judy

I kept my feelings “locked inside” for most of my life. Singing was my key to unlocking everything! I share about my life with my song about seeing a rainbow. Continue reading →

WON’T STAY EMPTY

Posted on August 30, 2014 by Judy

I know some people don’t like metaphorical writing. So here’s a summary of my last Princess story: SHE FINALLY WENT ON A DIET LOL! Continue reading →

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Seeing myself as a Princess allowed me to write feelings I might not have been able to express in any other way. Unfortunately, there is a dark side to my Princess metaphor – the Dragon. Continue reading →

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ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Posted on March 16, 2014 by Judy

In order to better deal with PSTD, I have begun to acknowledge many things that previously I have shoved back down. Continue reading →

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I’M CRYING WHILE I’M DREAMING

Posted on March 15, 2014 by Judy

In many dreams my mother appeared to me. We were holding hands and laughing, and then suddenly she died. Each time it happened in a different way. Continue reading →

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HOW WE DON’T CARE – PART 2

Posted on February 17, 2014 by Judy

It was my music and songs that caused my heart to stir again with feeling. And when my parents faded from my life, I did not want to accept numbness anymore. My children did not require, nor benefit from my constant devotion either. It was the discovery of my self-worth that gave me the courage to change my life. Continue reading →

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I SEE A RAINBOW THROUGH MY TEARS

Posted on December 10, 2013 by Judy

The rainbow through my tears was something I had seen before. It was important for me to remember that even if I wasn’t seeing it at the moment. Continue reading →

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IT POURS, THEN IT CLEARS

Posted on November 28, 2013 by Judy

My blog is like a diary, but at the same time I see it as a magnificent opportunity to touch other people with honesty and real experiences. Continue reading →

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I LIVED WEARING A BLINDFOLD

Posted on November 19, 2013 by Judy

Living with a blindfold and making no sound allowed me to stay married for 31 years. I was blind to things that upset me and chose to avoid conflict as much as possible. Continue reading →