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YOU FOUND A WAY

Posted on July 17, 2016 by Judy

Music is my passion, but being an artist has been my identity for most of my life. For my next two posts, I want to share about my personal life, while intertwining it with my current illustrations. Continue reading →

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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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IN THE PAST-PART 1

Posted on August 31, 2015 by Judy

At the end of my story, I share some scrawled lyrics in progress. They are brutally honest and very personal. It is because of writing those words that I found the insight I needed for my newest song. Continue reading →

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I AM HUMAN

Posted on July 18, 2015 by Judy

I grew up to become a good girl. It’s hard to maintain that. I’d rather use the phrase of “being human.” That gives me permission to feel upset and to make mistakes. Being human helps me to understand my reactions when I am under tremendous pressure. Continue reading →

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THE DOOR – PART 4

Posted on July 4, 2015 by Judy

I see a door as a metaphor for making a choice to leave or stay. And choices are empowering. Doors go out and also go in. A door can lead to somewhere unknown – scary at first, but also beautiful. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 2

Posted on January 10, 2015 by Judy

I’ve been an artist all of my life. And working with music involves much of the same abilities I’ve used as a professional illustrator for the last thirty years. I’m grateful that when I began playing my guitar again after almost thirty years, I could still remember most of the songs I wrote so long ago. Continue reading →

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NO ORDINARY PRINCESS – PART 4

Posted on December 22, 2014 by Judy

Suddenly, there was a loud knock at my door. It was my youngest son! I shouted, “DO NOT COME IN!” Continue reading →

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I CAN’T TELL YOU

Posted on September 28, 2014 by Judy

At my last hypnotherapy session, I opened up to talk about the guilt I’ve carried for many years over disappointing my mother because I wasn’t an observant Jew like she was. Continue reading →

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WON’T STAY EMPTY

Posted on August 30, 2014 by Judy

I know some people don’t like metaphorical writing. So here’s a summary of my last Princess story: SHE FINALLY WENT ON A DIET LOL! Continue reading →

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NO ORDINARY PRINCESS – PART 3

Posted on August 12, 2014 by Judy

For this Princess post, I’ve decided to share a story about how I’m not an ordinary Princess because I don’t believe royalty has to kill cockroaches. Continue reading →