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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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My song “Laughter & Tears” heals me because it takes me away from analyzing my pain and focusing on the loss. Instead of judging my feelings and looking at mistakes, my lyrics are a way to view my former marriage in a beautiful way – I see it as a collage of memories. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 2

Posted on August 4, 2013 by Judy

I’ve decided to go with “less perfect,” or perfectly adequate as a better way of looking at my singing. I may not be Streisand, but there’s no one else who can sing like Judy Unger. And I have my own music to sing, too. Thank you, god, for this beautiful healing gift that I was given.
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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 1

Posted on December 24, 2010 by Judy

My music is a form of expression that is not about creating a “hit” or contemporary song. I believe that all of my songs are a musical about my life. I do want them to be relatable, but my purpose is to express emotion with lyrics and music that connect to my soul. I have been slowly allowing another song to emerge from the “musical seeds” composed during my youth. I decided something could develop from a haunting, chord progression I composed when I was eighteen. The melody was far too high, and when I transposed the chords – I could see the song would work. Continue reading →

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A DEEP, DARK EMPTINESS IS THERE

Posted on December 9, 2010 by Judy

Does true empathy in grief exist? Empathy is a word that is very close to sympathy. I looked up the definition, and empathy means “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” So here is my truth (and my truth alone because grief is unique to every person): I have finally decided that my answer is a resounding no, since it was impossible for anyone to comprehend my level of pain after Jason died – even if they had also lost a child!
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GRIEF 101 – PART 2

Posted on September 21, 2010 by Judy

Just as people are all unique, so is grief. No person experiences grief the same way. Therefore, although I have experienced my own grief and shared in other people’s grief – I do not assume that I have the answers for you. However, I would like to write about some of what I learned, in the hopes that any part of my words might offer comfort.
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UP AND OUT!

Posted on February 27, 2010 by Judy

I think I am truly suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. That isn’t necessarily negative, because addressing my trauma by sharing so much has left me happier and healthier than I’ve felt in a long time. My hypnotherapist, Connie, always uses the phrase Up and Out. That means that it is so much better to gets things out, rather than let them fester. I had no idea that I had so much inside of me!
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