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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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At the end of my story, I share some scrawled lyrics in progress. They are brutally honest and very personal. It is because of writing those words that I found the insight I needed for my newest song. Continue reading →

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I AM HUMAN

Posted on July 18, 2015 by Judy

I grew up to become a good girl. It’s hard to maintain that. I’d rather use the phrase of “being human.” That gives me permission to feel upset and to make mistakes. Being human helps me to understand my reactions when I am under tremendous pressure. Continue reading →

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THE DOOR – PART 4

Posted on July 4, 2015 by Judy

I see a door as a metaphor for making a choice to leave or stay. And choices are empowering. Doors go out and also go in. A door can lead to somewhere unknown – scary at first, but also beautiful. Continue reading →

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I’VE ALWAYS CARED-PART 2

Posted on February 5, 2015 by Judy

It has been fun to revisit my older songs. With a remake, they have come to life again. I composed my song “I’ve Always Cared” when I was 19 years old. Who was I singing to? Who am I singing to now? Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 2

Posted on January 10, 2015 by Judy

I’ve been an artist all of my life. And working with music involves much of the same abilities I’ve used as a professional illustrator for the last thirty years. I’m grateful that when I began playing my guitar again after almost thirty years, I could still remember most of the songs I wrote so long ago. Continue reading →

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NO ORDINARY PRINCESS – PART 3

Posted on August 12, 2014 by Judy

For this Princess post, I’ve decided to share a story about how I’m not an ordinary Princess because I don’t believe royalty has to kill cockroaches. Continue reading →

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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 3

Posted on April 24, 2014 by Judy

My song “Laughter & Tears” heals me because it takes me away from analyzing my pain and focusing on the loss. Instead of judging my feelings and looking at mistakes, my lyrics are a way to view my former marriage in a beautiful way – I see it as a collage of memories. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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THE DOOR – PART 3

Posted on April 14, 2014 by Judy

When I composed “The Door” in 2012, my song felt like it was a huge secret. The fact that I was miserable in my marriage was not a secret to people whom I was close with. But finding the courage to divorce was overwhelming and my song helped to guide me. My husband never expected I would leave and my secret ate away at my insides. Continue reading →