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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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I see a door as a metaphor for making a choice to leave or stay. And choices are empowering. Doors go out and also go in. A door can lead to somewhere unknown – scary at first, but also beautiful. Continue reading →

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I’VE ALWAYS CARED-PART 2

Posted on February 5, 2015 by Judy

It has been fun to revisit my older songs. With a remake, they have come to life again. I composed my song “I’ve Always Cared” when I was 19 years old. Who was I singing to? Who am I singing to now? Continue reading →

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IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN – PART 2

Posted on January 26, 2015 by Judy

Initially, I wondered how I’d find a vibe for a song about falling in love that I wrote as a young 19-year-old girl. It has been at least 35 years since I’ve experienced romantic feelings. Continue reading →

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WE WERE STRANGERS

Posted on January 19, 2015 by Judy

For weeks, I avoided writing this story because I wanted to simply put it behind me. But then I decided there was insight that I gained from this experience. Continue reading →

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NO ORDINARY PRINCESS – PART 4

Posted on December 22, 2014 by Judy

Suddenly, there was a loud knock at my door. It was my youngest son! I shouted, “DO NOT COME IN!” Continue reading →

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A BRIDGE CAME ALONG

Posted on December 19, 2014 by Judy

A bridge is a transition. It takes the second chorus to the third chorus and allows the song to build in a magnificent way. My life right now is like a bridge, filled with adjustment and linked to my future. I haven’t reached the “last chorus” so the best is yet to come for me! Continue reading →

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HOW MUCH I CARE

Posted on December 15, 2014 by Judy

My friend, Cheryl, inspired my song “Just a Tune” and I really miss her (she died in 2008.) I am sharing some stories about the feelings behind my song, which I recently created a new arrangement for. Continue reading →

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I CAN’T TELL YOU

Posted on September 28, 2014 by Judy

At my last hypnotherapy session, I opened up to talk about the guilt I’ve carried for many years over disappointing my mother because I wasn’t an observant Jew like she was. Continue reading →