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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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My song “Laughter & Tears” heals me because it takes me away from analyzing my pain and focusing on the loss. Instead of judging my feelings and looking at mistakes, my lyrics are a way to view my former marriage in a beautiful way – I see it as a collage of memories. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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THERE WAS NOTHING LEFT

Posted on September 1, 2013 by Judy

I wish I could have inspired people by having persevered in my marriage through so much adversity, but it’s just not possible for me to do that. This might sound like a woman in her 50’s who simply “found herself” and is off gallivanting. But it’s not. It’s about a girl who got married very young, stuck with it through thick and thin, and feels like she deserves more from life. Continue reading →

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I KNEW LOSING YOU WOULDN’T BE EASY

Posted on August 14, 2013 by Judy

One of the harder aspects of going through a divorce has been trying to alleviate the suffering brought upon my children by change. Continue reading →

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SONG OF JOY-PART 2

Posted on June 20, 2013 by Judy

I love the idea of having a wedding song in my repertoire. For me, I feel like I am starting a new life. It is simply a beautiful start in a different way. Continue reading →

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FINDING MY VOICE – PART 2

Posted on March 13, 2013 by Judy

For most of my life, I have suppressed most of my feelings. From the time I was young, I never felt safe expressing anger and preferred instead to shove it away deep inside. Also, since ending my marriage I have been numb with guilt. My inner voice encouraged me to sing because singing is actually a perfect metaphor for freeing myself. I could not achieve the vocal results I wanted, because I was afraid to sing loudly. It felt risky for me and I did not like to hear what I perceived as a harsh tone. It led to breathiness overall – I believed that it was prettier. Continue reading →

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YOU HAVE NO HOPE

Posted on December 30, 2012 by Judy

It seemed that she had a lot more to say on the topic of optimism and grief. The post was named Killing Optimism. Her words were searing and the amputation of her soul was complete. It made me realize how foolish grief comparisons were between the loss of a child versus a soul mate. Clearly her amputated soul was nothing I would ever want to measure. Continue reading →

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MEMORIES I TREASURE

Posted on December 21, 2012 by Judy

I do have a strong attachment to memories. My memories might involve “objects,” but those objects only serve as a way to remind me of memories filled with special people whom I’ve loved. Some of those memories are sad. Currently, I’d like to think that I am creating happier memories. There are many “firsts” in my life, as I am now living on my own at the age of 53 for the first time in my life. Continue reading →

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MUSIC RESCUED MY SOUL

Posted on December 2, 2012 by Judy

I felt painful thoughts buzzing like a swarm of bees in my mind. My song delicately erased the noise. Gradually, I felt myself soothed and imagined I was floating upon beautiful clouds. Once again . . .my music saved me. Continue reading →