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THE UNKNOWN-PART 2

Posted on September 16, 2015 by Judy

Once upon a time, it seemed like changing my life was insurmountable; the unknown was very scary. Continue reading →

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I grew up to become a good girl. It’s hard to maintain that. I’d rather use the phrase of “being human.” That gives me permission to feel upset and to make mistakes. Being human helps me to understand my reactions when I am under tremendous pressure. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 2

Posted on January 10, 2015 by Judy

I’ve been an artist all of my life. And working with music involves much of the same abilities I’ve used as a professional illustrator for the last thirty years. I’m grateful that when I began playing my guitar again after almost thirty years, I could still remember most of the songs I wrote so long ago. Continue reading →

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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 3

Posted on April 24, 2014 by Judy

My song “Laughter & Tears” heals me because it takes me away from analyzing my pain and focusing on the loss. Instead of judging my feelings and looking at mistakes, my lyrics are a way to view my former marriage in a beautiful way – I see it as a collage of memories. Continue reading →

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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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LAUGHTER AND TEARS – PART 2

Posted on August 4, 2013 by Judy

I’ve decided to go with “less perfect,” or perfectly adequate as a better way of looking at my singing. I may not be Streisand, but there’s no one else who can sing like Judy Unger. And I have my own music to sing, too. Thank you, god, for this beautiful healing gift that I was given.
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HOW CAN I BELIEVE?

Posted on January 7, 2013 by Judy

You will not hear me say, “Time heals.” I have said that hearts do heal and it happens unconsciously. I have said that joy is possible. That is not the same thing. Believe it or not, although time lends some anesthesia to the gut-wrenching pain – for those that succumb to grief it is too late. Grief actually wrecks lives and destroys a persons’ health over time. Healing from grief is torturous hard work. Most people don’t believe they will heal and I was one of those people. Healing isn’t about fixing anything so that’s it goes back to how it was. There are scars forever. And nothing heals when it festers either. In my fourth year of bereavement I wrote: How can my heart ever heal when it continues to bleed? The answer was that it couldn’t! Continue reading →

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YOU HAVE NO HOPE

Posted on December 30, 2012 by Judy

It seemed that she had a lot more to say on the topic of optimism and grief. The post was named Killing Optimism. Her words were searing and the amputation of her soul was complete. It made me realize how foolish grief comparisons were between the loss of a child versus a soul mate. Clearly her amputated soul was nothing I would ever want to measure. Continue reading →