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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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When I composed “The Door” in 2012, my song felt like it was a huge secret. The fact that I was miserable in my marriage was not a secret to people whom I was close with. But finding the courage to divorce was overwhelming and my song helped to guide me. My husband never expected I would leave and my secret ate away at my insides. Continue reading →

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ACKNOWLEDGMENT

Posted on March 16, 2014 by Judy

In order to better deal with PSTD, I have begun to acknowledge many things that previously I have shoved back down. Continue reading →

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HOW WE DON’T CARE – PART 2

Posted on February 17, 2014 by Judy

It was my music and songs that caused my heart to stir again with feeling. And when my parents faded from my life, I did not want to accept numbness anymore. My children did not require, nor benefit from my constant devotion either. It was the discovery of my self-worth that gave me the courage to change my life. Continue reading →