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I STILL REMEMBER – PART 1

Posted on April 16, 2014 by Judy

I received a call from my lawyer. My divorce was final. It was a big moment. Continue reading →

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I’ve decided to go with “less perfect,” or perfectly adequate as a better way of looking at my singing. I may not be Streisand, but there’s no one else who can sing like Judy Unger. And I have my own music to sing, too. Thank you, god, for this beautiful healing gift that I was given.
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HOW CAN I BELIEVE?

Posted on January 7, 2013 by Judy

You will not hear me say, “Time heals.” I have said that hearts do heal and it happens unconsciously. I have said that joy is possible. That is not the same thing. Believe it or not, although time lends some anesthesia to the gut-wrenching pain – for those that succumb to grief it is too late. Grief actually wrecks lives and destroys a persons’ health over time. Healing from grief is torturous hard work. Most people don’t believe they will heal and I was one of those people. Healing isn’t about fixing anything so that’s it goes back to how it was. There are scars forever. And nothing heals when it festers either. In my fourth year of bereavement I wrote: How can my heart ever heal when it continues to bleed? The answer was that it couldn’t! Continue reading →

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YOU HAVE NO HOPE

Posted on December 30, 2012 by Judy

It seemed that she had a lot more to say on the topic of optimism and grief. The post was named Killing Optimism. Her words were searing and the amputation of her soul was complete. It made me realize how foolish grief comparisons were between the loss of a child versus a soul mate. Clearly her amputated soul was nothing I would ever want to measure. Continue reading →