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ONE DAY I’LL BE GONE

Posted on February 8, 2015 by Judy

I loved what a friend of mine said about my new song. He said, “I think it’s great how you can write about something that many people think about, but are afraid to say.” Continue reading →

I knew this was your one-year anniversary and meant to write to you sooner. You made it through one year and that is a huge achievement. Each minute farther away from the amputation of your soul may be slow, torturous and imperceptible – but it is farther along. You will get there. You will always miss your son, but life won’t be filled with torture. Don’t give up hope. Continue reading →

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ALL I HAVE LEFT AFTER THE DEATH OF MY CHILD

Posted on December 5, 2012 by Judy

My life was as gray as ashes for almost two decades. I devoted myself to my children and my parents. I coped by simply going through the motions for many years. I was alive but not really living, but my love kept my spirit going. Continue reading →

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MY LIFE BECAME CLEAR – PART 2

Posted on September 7, 2012 by Judy

Our thoughts actually can be reframed. Instead of telling yourself you feel like 80, try telling yourself you feel like 40. Do nice things for yourself and watch how you will feel much younger. You could live many more years. No reason to waste your life because of fear. The unknown can’t be worse than the known. Continue reading →

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IT ALL SEEMED SO REAL – PART 2

Posted on April 11, 2012 by Judy

Yet even with joy, I still feel pain. I believe that experiencing pain is necessary and part of the full spectrum of being alive. I turn my pain into music and song lyrics; after that, my pain is diminished. Recently, when I have had to deal with the unrelenting stress of my parents’ decline, I simply listen to my music and then I am soaring. My passion for music has me dancing throughout my day, enraptured by the beautiful melodies that loop inside my mind whether I am physically listening or not. My music continues to lead me to magical places. Even my most painful songs allow for the heartache to actually flow out of me as I sing the lyrics and play my guitar. Continue reading →

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MY LIFE BECAME CLEAR – PART 1

Posted on December 30, 2011 by Judy

My life was silent and sad for decades. The beautiful music that fills my life with joy resulted from my clarity. I am so grateful for the gift I was given. That gift is my life. Continue reading →

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EVERY SEASON YOU COME BACK TO ME-PART 1

Posted on May 8, 2011 by Judy

It is momentous for me that I wrote a completely, new song last week. My song addresses my grief, which always reappears with my child’s approaching birthday and death day. After many years, I accept that my child is truly dead. However, I feel like he is still with me in a different way, and that gives me comfort. After many years, I cannot wait to wake up because I love my writing and my music. There are so many things I want to express. Continue reading →

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UP AND OUT!

Posted on February 27, 2010 by Judy

I think I am truly suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. That isn’t necessarily negative, because addressing my trauma by sharing so much has left me happier and healthier than I’ve felt in a long time. My hypnotherapist, Connie, always uses the phrase Up and Out. That means that it is so much better to gets things out, rather than let them fester. I had no idea that I had so much inside of me!
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