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LEMON TREE

Posted on December 9, 2020 by Judy

My story about the overgrown lemon tree in my backyard does not carry a song. It does, however, accompany a painting that I finished last week. Continue reading →

Posted in Biographical, Healing and Hope | Tagged "sandwich generation", adjusting to loss of parents, adjusting to parents' decline, Aging Parents, Caregiving, creativity, dementia, father's love, fruit painting, grief, healing from grief, heartfelt, hoarder, hoarding, hope, hope of healing, Illustration, inspiration, Judy Unger, lemon, lemon tree, loss of parents, love for father, memories, optimism, Ordinary Life, painting, photo-realism, staying positive, touching, tribute to parents, watercolor painting, writing | 20 Comments

WITH ME WHEN I WAS BORN

Posted on October 14, 2014 by Judy

When I have a song that “grabs” and uplifts me, I feel like every day is my birthday. Continue reading →

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I CAN’T TELL YOU

Posted on September 28, 2014 by Judy

At my last hypnotherapy session, I opened up to talk about the guilt I’ve carried for many years over disappointing my mother because I wasn’t an observant Jew like she was. Continue reading →

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I remember my parents and how loving they were to me. I try so hard to be a loving mother to my three children – taking care of their needs, while at the same time missing having someone who cares about my own. Continue reading →

Posted in Hypnotherapy | Tagged "sandwich generation", acknowledgment, acoustic guitar, adjusting to loss of parents, composing, coping with stress, daughter relationship, grief, GRIEF RELATED, guitar, haunting melody, having hope, healing from grief, healing music, hope, hope of healing, hopeful and optimistic, Hypnotherapy, inspiration, it is what it is, Judy Unger, loss, loss of a mom, loss of a mother, love for a mother, lyric development, lyric writing, lyrics, mother, mother daughter relationship, mother dying, mother's death, mother's illness, Mother's love, Music, original songs, parent and child, parenting, positive thinking, singing, songwriting, stress and effects, stressors, suppressing emotion, suppressing feelings, tribute to my mother, tribute to parents | 1 Comment

YOU WERE THERE – PART 5

Posted on February 17, 2014 by Judy

When I listen to my song I can feel my mother hugging me. Continue reading →

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I’M NOT ALONE

Posted on January 30, 2014 by Judy

I believe it’s far worse to be with someone you don’t want to be with, than to be alone! And as I’ve said before, with music I’m never alone. Continue reading →

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DO NOT SUCCUMB-PART 2

Posted on November 16, 2013 by Judy

Sometimes I miss is the deep love I received from my parents. No one loves us like our mother and father. But I feel them with me and just because they’ve died, I still feel important and valuable. Their love hasn’t died!” Continue reading →

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WHEN FALL WOULD COME, FOR YEARS I WAS NUMB

Posted on November 5, 2013 by Judy

I decided that even though on the surface I appeared peaceful, I was also quite numb. Despite the fogginess of vision that I found discouraging, there was no end to beauty and inspiration in my life. Performing required a great deal of courage for me. It was time to see if I could take off the mask . . . Continue reading →

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MY MOTHER, MY SONG

Posted on October 23, 2013 by Judy

In Hebrew, my mother’s name Shirley means my song. My mother was an exquisite song in my life. She is a magnificent melody that I will continue humming until the day I die.
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ONE DAY, YOUR PAIN WILL GO AWAY – PART 2

Posted on October 13, 2013 by Judy

I was so relieved that my mother’s suffering was finally over. Music was God’s gift to lift me up. Today, God was with my mother and me. Continue reading →