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YOU’LL TOUCH SO MANY OTHERS

Posted on January 9, 2013 by Judy

I never imagined what my future held; that the young girl who cared for my sick cardiac child would be calling me all these years later. Then Lupe said that it was important for me to know that Jason had definitely affected her life. I choked on my tears when she said, “Judy, there was something so special about Jason and I will never forget him.” Continue reading →

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HOW CAN I BELIEVE?

Posted on January 7, 2013 by Judy

You will not hear me say, “Time heals.” I have said that hearts do heal and it happens unconsciously. I have said that joy is possible. That is not the same thing. Believe it or not, although time lends some anesthesia to the gut-wrenching pain – for those that succumb to grief it is too late. Grief actually wrecks lives and destroys a persons’ health over time. Healing from grief is torturous hard work. Most people don’t believe they will heal and I was one of those people. Healing isn’t about fixing anything so that’s it goes back to how it was. There are scars forever. And nothing heals when it festers either. In my fourth year of bereavement I wrote: How can my heart ever heal when it continues to bleed? The answer was that it couldn’t! Continue reading →

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HOW WILL I EVER SAY GOODBYE?

Posted on December 20, 2012 by Judy

Every time I sang the words “How will I ever say goodbye?” I felt tears fill my eyes. My son’s death was something I had not consciously anticipated, though he was sickly with his heart defect. What would it have been like to be with my child knowing he would soon die? I could not imagine! I wrote to a mother last night. She was anticipating that soon her daughter’s suffering would end and she would be entering the black hole of grief. Continue reading →

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HOW CAN MY HEART EVER HEAL?

Posted on December 10, 2012 by Judy

I wrote a poem called “The Ache in My Heart.” It was written four years into my bereavement, at a time when I had little hope of ever feeling better. The last line of my poem was, “How can my heart ever heal – when it continues to bleed?” I began to heal when I changed my thought process. I had to actually believe that healing was possible. Continue reading →