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YOU FLEW AWAY

Posted on January 14, 2013 by Judy

Was I really helping other people with my optimism or bringing myself back into my former sad world? I’ve written many times that the amputation of my soul was a permanent condition. And I’ve also said that grief is not recoverable. Such a contradiction to announce that I have healed! So in order to be more consistent, from now on I am going to say that, “I’m still healing,” instead of saying, “I have healed.” Grief is a process. It will follow me for the rest of my life. Continue reading →

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YOU’LL TOUCH SO MANY OTHERS

Posted on January 9, 2013 by Judy

I never imagined what my future held; that the young girl who cared for my sick cardiac child would be calling me all these years later. Then Lupe said that it was important for me to know that Jason had definitely affected her life. I choked on my tears when she said, “Judy, there was something so special about Jason and I will never forget him.” Continue reading →

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HOW CAN I BELIEVE?

Posted on January 7, 2013 by Judy

You will not hear me say, “Time heals.” I have said that hearts do heal and it happens unconsciously. I have said that joy is possible. That is not the same thing. Believe it or not, although time lends some anesthesia to the gut-wrenching pain – for those that succumb to grief it is too late. Grief actually wrecks lives and destroys a persons’ health over time. Healing from grief is torturous hard work. Most people don’t believe they will heal and I was one of those people. Healing isn’t about fixing anything so that’s it goes back to how it was. There are scars forever. And nothing heals when it festers either. In my fourth year of bereavement I wrote: How can my heart ever heal when it continues to bleed? The answer was that it couldn’t! Continue reading →

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I’LL LIVE WITHIN MY BROKEN HEART

Posted on January 3, 2013 by Judy

I have written before that everyone handles his or her own grief differently. Now, I want to share my own personal beliefs about grief:
It is not recoverable; one adjusts to it.
Healing is possible, and maintaining hope of it can provide sustenance. But the process of healing is uncconscious and happens despite certainty that grief is endless.
Many, many people succumb to their grief.
Grieving is hard work and consumes one’s existence.
Although it is rare, it is possible to find joy again. But finding it is a conscious effort and requires giving oneself permission to be happy. Continue reading →