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MY RETREAT FROM WITHDRAWAL TO REFUGE

Posted on March 9, 2010 by Judy

The background for how I met these moms goes back to May of 2003. At that time, I attended a very special retreat. It was called “Healing the Mother’s Heart Retreat, and it was a one-day overnight for mothers of special needs children. I recently received an email about it happening again this year, and I always recommend this experience to other moms that are struggling with raising a special needs child. Continue reading →

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BYE, BYE, ZOMBIELAND – PART 1

Posted on March 8, 2010 by Judy

When the tears stopped for me, it was only because I could no longer remember my beloved child as clearly. So now there was actually a different form of sadness. I felt farther away from what I was holding onto so tightly. But there were definitely less tears! Continue reading →

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OPENING THE GATES TO OUR HEARTS

Posted on March 8, 2010 by Judy

When I first met Magda while playing tennis, I had not yet lost my child. We became friends through our common interest, the enjoyment of tennis. She loved children, and when Jason was born she was extremely caring. After losing a child, I learned things about many people and their pain. Friends and other humans shared pain with me that they had kept hidden prior to that. Many people bury their pain so that they can carry on a “normal” existence. After Jason died, many people shared their own grief experience with me. Continue reading →

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I KNOW I’M LEARNING, “WRITE” OR WRONG

Posted on March 7, 2010 by Judy

The post title, “I KNOW I’M LEARNING, “WRITE” OR WRONG,” refers to the fact that I was always the “good girl.” I was used to being told that everything was clearly either right or wrong. I never wanted to disappoint my parents, and I have had a lot of difficulty allowing myself to see things differently than them.
My father has a severe hoarding problem. Honestly, it’s very severe. It has been one of my mother’s greatest aggravations. I am, on the other hand, very organized and can throw things away.
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