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I’LL LIVE WITHIN MY BROKEN HEART

Posted on January 3, 2013 by Judy

I have written before that everyone handles his or her own grief differently. Now, I want to share my own personal beliefs about grief:
It is not recoverable; one adjusts to it.
Healing is possible, and maintaining hope of it can provide sustenance. But the process of healing is uncconscious and happens despite certainty that grief is endless.
Many, many people succumb to their grief.
Grieving is hard work and consumes one’s existence.
Although it is rare, it is possible to find joy again. But finding it is a conscious effort and requires giving oneself permission to be happy. Continue reading →

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HOW WILL I EVER SAY GOODBYE?

Posted on December 20, 2012 by Judy

Every time I sang the words “How will I ever say goodbye?” I felt tears fill my eyes. My son’s death was something I had not consciously anticipated, though he was sickly with his heart defect. What would it have been like to be with my child knowing he would soon die? I could not imagine! I wrote to a mother last night. She was anticipating that soon her daughter’s suffering would end and she would be entering the black hole of grief. Continue reading →

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I WAS SO SAD

Posted on December 13, 2012 by Judy

It turned out that the grief that once wrecked my life, gave me a gift to access my heart in a very special way. Grief allowed songs to blossom that might never have been born otherwise. Continue reading →

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HOW CAN MY HEART EVER HEAL?

Posted on December 10, 2012 by Judy

I wrote a poem called “The Ache in My Heart.” It was written four years into my bereavement, at a time when I had little hope of ever feeling better. The last line of my poem was, “How can my heart ever heal – when it continues to bleed?” I began to heal when I changed my thought process. I had to actually believe that healing was possible. Continue reading →