Tag Archives: loss

MAY I CRY?

Posted on May 6, 2010 by Judy

I accept my son’s death now after eighteen years. Lest anyone tell me that I need to get on with my life, I have. I have joy and I am no longer grieving my son intensely. I am not the same person I was before his death. I was so innocent and unscathed by life. I used to view this as another loss. Only recently, I see it now as something I have gained. The insights that I can share have been significant for me.

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HARMONY, FRIENDSHIP, AND COMFORT, PART 1

Posted on May 5, 2010 by Judy

I am sharing correspondence between my high school choir teacher, Frankie Nobert. There is also a message to my friend, Amélie. Twenty years after high school, Amélie, Frankie, and I began to have annual lunches. It was a wonderful opportunity to reconnect with the teacher I worshipped in high school. I will share her story and insights about life someday. Continue reading →

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ILLUMINATING HEARTACHE

Posted on May 2, 2010 by Judy

There was a lot of listening to do. She shared her anguish with a voice that did not reveal the true depth of her pain. The hospital insisted that her dying husband be released to her care tomorrow. She was not prepared. The hospital felt there was nothing more to do and she was responsible to set up hospice care; she needed to handle all those arrangements. She needed a hospital bed; she needed nurses. It was overwhelming. It was hard for her to deal with; she wanted him to stay in the hospital a little longer. Continue reading →

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ONLY TEARS – PART 1

Posted on April 26, 2010 by Judy

Today, I realized I had the same feeling I did when I finished writing about Jason. It was the feeling that my blog had a first page, which was extremely meaningful. The whole experience was such an “up and out,” that I felt calm and able to manage without sharing anything for a while. There was simply no point to follow it with something trivial. Continue reading →