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SOMEONE TO LOVE YOU – PART 1

Posted on November 18, 2015 by Judy

I know that this was what my parents wanted for me, which also makes me cry. Continue reading →

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IT’S NOT FOREVER – PART 3

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Judy

To be honest, I did not expect to write a “Part 3” about this song. But just last week, I received an amazing message that I really wanted to share with this story. Continue reading →

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Who is carrying me? I have many interpretations for those words. A long time ago I was certain I would grieve forever. I’m not sure how I found my way out of Hell; I must have been carried. Continue reading →

IT’S NOT FOREVER – PART 1

Posted on October 1, 2015 by Judy

When my child died, I buried him and part of me died, too. I wanted to crawl into his coffin to be with him. The years that buried me are over now because I found a way to dig myself out. And when I did, I realized that Jason had never left me. Continue reading →

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BYE, BYE, ZOMBIELAND – PART 2

Posted on July 27, 2015 by Judy

Zombieland represented the many years I plodded through life in a way that was “deadened.” Even though I was healing when I wrote the first part of this story, I really had no idea what was ahead for me. Zombieland is very far behind me now because I completely turned my life around. I am alive! And very grateful for every minute of my life. Continue reading →

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IN EVERY SMILE

Posted on February 20, 2015 by Judy

Whenever I can make a difference in my childrens’ lives – it is like “living on.” Those lessons will always be there to remind them of my love, even when I’m not. Continue reading →

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ONE DAY I’LL BE GONE

Posted on February 8, 2015 by Judy

I loved what a friend of mine said about my new song. He said, “I think it’s great how you can write about something that many people think about, but are afraid to say.” Continue reading →

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ALL I HAVE LEFT AFTER THE DEATH OF MY CHILD

Posted on December 5, 2012 by Judy

My life was as gray as ashes for almost two decades. I devoted myself to my children and my parents. I coped by simply going through the motions for many years. I was alive but not really living, but my love kept my spirit going. Continue reading →

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MY LIFE BECAME CLEAR – PART 2

Posted on September 7, 2012 by Judy

Our thoughts actually can be reframed. Instead of telling yourself you feel like 80, try telling yourself you feel like 40. Do nice things for yourself and watch how you will feel much younger. You could live many more years. No reason to waste your life because of fear. The unknown can’t be worse than the known. Continue reading →

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IT ALL SEEMED SO REAL – PART 2

Posted on April 11, 2012 by Judy

Yet even with joy, I still feel pain. I believe that experiencing pain is necessary and part of the full spectrum of being alive. I turn my pain into music and song lyrics; after that, my pain is diminished. Recently, when I have had to deal with the unrelenting stress of my parents’ decline, I simply listen to my music and then I am soaring. My passion for music has me dancing throughout my day, enraptured by the beautiful melodies that loop inside my mind whether I am physically listening or not. My music continues to lead me to magical places. Even my most painful songs allow for the heartache to actually flow out of me as I sing the lyrics and play my guitar. Continue reading →