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About Judy

I'm an illustrator by profession. At this juncture in my life, I am pursuing my dream of writing and composing music. Every day of my life is precious!

I REMEMBER YOU STILL LOVE ME

Posted on December 23, 2010 by Judy

Lastly, I went out alone to dinner with my husband last night. I asked him if he wanted to know anything about a song I’d written that “involves him.” He answered exactly as I knew he would. He said, “Don’t embarrass me. I’d rather not hear about it!” Such is love when you have been married thirty years!
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A SOMBER, GRAY SKY DARKENS ABOVE

Posted on December 19, 2010 by Judy

When I was suffering with grief, I didn’t want to hear whether anything “good” came out of a child’s death. At that moment in time, all I wanted was for him to come back to life! Feeling that something “purposeful” could come out of his death would be to acknowledge something selfish. I didn’t want to there to be any purpose or benefit to his death! It was inconceivable. Continue reading →

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THE AMPUTATION OF MY SOUL, PART 2

Posted on December 17, 2010 by Judy

As far as the analogy to a “car wreck” goes, unfortunately deep grief wrecks lives. I believe there is a sense of unfairness to the loss of someone that didn’t get a chance to live a full life (and that includes an infant, stillbirth, and miscarriage). Everyone dies, but when it happens before someone even had a chance to experience a full life – perhaps that is where so much of the sadness lies. However, there is certainly grief with losing anyone, even someone older. I have grieved for other things in my life besides the death of my son. With autism, there is also the issue about unfairness for the additional hurdles in life. However, I never want my scars to define me. Coping with those scars were easier for me when I became less focused on why the accident happened and more focused on how I could compensate and adjust. Unfortunately, like a car wreck – accidents happen. And there are no seatbelts for grief either!
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