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WHEN I REALIZED YOUR ABSENCE WAS REAL

Posted on December 11, 2010 by Judy

Working through my grief allowed me to do something I never dreamed was possible. If I hadn’t experienced Jason’s death, my life would have been ordinary. I might never have written so many stories and songs as a result. With my own death, I would have left this earth without leaving a “mark.” Now I feel my life is truly meaningful. Jason definitely left his mark and will live on through my music and words. Continue reading →

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WHAT IS LEFT SINCE YOU DIED

Posted on December 10, 2010 by Judy

I feel like I always say the same things over and over in regards to grief. There are a few “truisms” for me, but generally those are not even my own ideas. They are truths that all the people grieving seem to know. It’s a “club” no one wants to belong to. And honestly, whoever buys the books will probably already know someone or be someone in it. Continue reading →

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A DEEP, DARK EMPTINESS IS THERE

Posted on December 9, 2010 by Judy

Does true empathy in grief exist? Empathy is a word that is very close to sympathy. I looked up the definition, and empathy means “the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.” So here is my truth (and my truth alone because grief is unique to every person): I have finally decided that my answer is a resounding no, since it was impossible for anyone to comprehend my level of pain after Jason died – even if they had also lost a child!
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AUTUMN RECOLLECTIONS & ALONE

Posted on October 19, 2010 by Judy

It turns out that the songs I’ve decided to record last are musically the most unusual and interesting. When I went into George Reich’s studio, I decided to arrange two songs together: Autumn Recollections and Alone. Both songs are among my earliest compositions; I was seventeen years old when I wrote them. I decided to exercise creative freedom by connecting the songs; they are short and similar in style. Each has dissonant chords, as well as three stanzas without a chorus. Three strings of the last chord on Autumn Recollections carries over into Alone, even though they are in different keys. Continue reading →