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THE AMPUTATION OF MY SOUL, PART 2

Posted on December 17, 2010 by Judy

As far as the analogy to a “car wreck” goes, unfortunately deep grief wrecks lives. I believe there is a sense of unfairness to the loss of someone that didn’t get a chance to live a full life (and that includes an infant, stillbirth, and miscarriage). Everyone dies, but when it happens before someone even had a chance to experience a full life – perhaps that is where so much of the sadness lies. However, there is certainly grief with losing anyone, even someone older. I have grieved for other things in my life besides the death of my son. With autism, there is also the issue about unfairness for the additional hurdles in life. However, I never want my scars to define me. Coping with those scars were easier for me when I became less focused on why the accident happened and more focused on how I could compensate and adjust. Unfortunately, like a car wreck – accidents happen. And there are no seatbelts for grief either!
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WHEN I REALIZED YOUR ABSENCE WAS REAL

Posted on December 11, 2010 by Judy

Working through my grief allowed me to do something I never dreamed was possible. If I hadn’t experienced Jason’s death, my life would have been ordinary. I might never have written so many stories and songs as a result. With my own death, I would have left this earth without leaving a “mark.” Now I feel my life is truly meaningful. Jason definitely left his mark and will live on through my music and words. Continue reading →

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WHAT IS LEFT SINCE YOU DIED

Posted on December 10, 2010 by Judy

I feel like I always say the same things over and over in regards to grief. There are a few “truisms” for me, but generally those are not even my own ideas. They are truths that all the people grieving seem to know. It’s a “club” no one wants to belong to. And honestly, whoever buys the books will probably already know someone or be someone in it. Continue reading →

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SOMEHOW I’M STILL PLAYING

Posted on December 8, 2010 by Judy

Peaches said, “Judy there’s a reason for all of your songs being rediscovered. Another way to look at it is that they were seeds. They weren’t ready to be planted a long time ago, and you couldn’t grow them until they were ready. Now those seeds can blossom, because you finally planted them during this magical time in your life. It is so beautiful that you can nurture and grow them now!”
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